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How to Know if Couples Therapy Isn’t Working?

Couples therapy can be a challenging process. It’s important to remember progress may not always be linear or immediately apparent. However, if you have been seeing a couples counsellor and you are wondering if the therapy is actually working, here are some key indicators: You feel like no progress is being made. If you find you and your partner are not making any progress with improved communication or your other

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What Results Can I Expect from Couples Counselling?

Dr. Dadson relates “Depending on the issues you face as a couple, your goals as a coupleand your progress rate, will all vary the results you can expect to see in couples counseling.” Results couples can expect to see in therapy: Improved communication: When a couples finds there is a reduction in misunderstandings, conflicts, and feelings of resentment, it is a sign they are effective in communicating more effectively and

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My Partner not Want to Go to Counselling

What if My Partner Doesn’t Want to Go to Counselling

It can be frustrating if your partner is hesitant about therapy. Men can be resistant about going to therapy. Dr. Michael Dadson had an advantage that includes decades of specializing in working with men. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation about their concerns and reservations. Understanding your partners perspective and validating their feelings, even if you don’t agree with them

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Find a Therapist or Counsellor

How to Find a Therapist or Counsellor?

Finding a therapist/counsellor can be a daunting task. However, in order for counselling to beeffective, it is important to find a counsellor/therapist who is the right fit for you and yourpartner as a couple to teach new skills, deliver support and provide guidance in a non-judgemental atmosphere. In British Columbia, the best resource to use is the BC Association of Clinical Counsellorswebsite. A properly trained and educated Registered Clinical Counsellor

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12 Principles for Effective Couples Therapy

Develop and establish a strong therapeutic alliance with both partners. A Registered Clinical Counsellor will work to establish a safe and trusting space where both you and your partner feel comfortable sharing thoughts and feelings Focus on the present moment and the couple’s current issues. The past is important and worth addressing for the purposes of improving the present and changing the trajectory of the future. It may take time

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What is the Most Effective form of Couples Counselling?

There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. The most effective therapy for couples is basedon a couple’s unique circumstances, needs and their goals. However, here are a few effective approaches to couples’ therapy that has been validated in research and the literature. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): EFT is well established in the literate and research as an effective couples counselling approach. The EFT approach focuses on improving emotional communication

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Time to Physically Leave Your Relationship

Signs it is Time to Physically Leave Your Relationship

Counselling can help in the worst situations in life and if there is violence in the home there is help see support resources below. Counsellors do need to take action but only by the threat of immediate death, the immediate risk of a child’s well-being and by court orders imposed by judges with legal grounds. There is a pattern of violence toward you or your children. Your children are being

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When is it Time to Go to Counselling?

Often it can be difficult to know when it’s time to seek counselling, but here are some signs that may indicate it’s time to reach out for help: You are struggling to cope with your emotions and feeling overwhelmed. If you are feeling anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, or your ability to function is impaired or impacting your daily life and your relationships, counselling can help. You are experiencing a variety of

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Why Does Love Hurt

Why Does Love Hurt?

“Love can hurt and especially romantic love”, states Dr. Michael Dadson. Relationships,particularly, are one of the most meaningful places for humans to find purpose, contentmentand happiness. But why do they seem to hurt so much? “The reason is in part because of ourbiology”, Dr. Dadson adds. According to Dr. Michael Dadson: We are wired for connection. Neurologically human beings as mammals are biologically designed to attach not just for our

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Reasons Couples Counselling is Important

Often couples have difficulty developing the kinds communications skills and conflict resolutionskills necessary to navigate the complications of an intimate couple’s relationship. Couplesfrequently need help gaining the insight and resources necessary to help each other heal. The stress of “unresolved traumatic events in childhood”, can be threatening or impairing all relationships”. In situations like this process of healing needs to occur. I know for some that is hard to hear.

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